No matter the distance, effective communication is essential to survive a long distance relationship. My husband and I were apart for four years before we finally got married and live together. It was the most difficult four years of my life, living each day, wishing that one day we can just be together in the same place, at the same time zone. He was in the US, I was in the Philippines. He was saying good night to me while I was just starting my day at the office. We exchanged stories of our day through Yahoo Messenger. We woke up each other through text messages. Wherever we go, we have our cellular phone with us. on weekends, we talked through prepaid calling cards. filipina webcam
It was really hard. Long distance relationships entail committed effort from both parties. One cannot measure who gives more effort or more time. What is important is that both of you have the same goal: to make the long distance relationship last, no matter what.
Here are some tips that that I would like to share with you:
1. Never let a day pass without keeping in touch
Even if you don’t see each other, through constant communication, you can tell each other the things that you did, you’re doing or plan to do. You’re not obliged to tell every single thing that you do, but both of you will feel you just want to share anything even just though words.
2. Trust each other
You will hear your friends and relative tease you to just find someone else. Long distance relationships don’t work. You would not know if your partner is really honest with you. How do you know if he/she does not cheat on you? How do you know if he/she tells you everything? Well, you would not really know for sure because you don’t see each other. That’s why you simply trust each other. If you have constant communication, you would not have any other time for “other” things. Believe me. After work, I spent hours in the computer for emails and instant messaging. At times, I went out with my friends, but my fingers are on my cellular phone for never-ending text messages. On weekends, 30 minutes for phone and three hours for the computer. Doubts should never ever have a place in your mind, otherwise, you’ll just spend hours and hours investigating each other.
3. Explore different communication options
Constant communication is your tool to survive LDR. It’s expensive but you can save a lot if you just look around and see what options you have.
Today, you have so many choices – if not free, at least, you can still save a lot.
· Free Instant Messaging/PC phone calls
Download Yahoo messenger, Skype, MSN Messenger, ICQ, AOL and a lot more. Plus, you can plug-in a web cam and talk virtually face-to-face.